…well not really but sometimes I feel like I am. Do you ever feel like an imposter?
Welcome the imposter syndrome, or in other words, self-doubt. The doubt that we are not good enough, that we cannot live up to expectations, that our skills are not advanced enough. The feeling of just not being enough.
We all feel it.
I am blessed to work at a job I love (connecting authors & readers, helping people) but sometimes I feel like my skills and talents are not enough, that people see me as far better than I am, that I am an imposter of this better version of Kate who can do and be everything. Someone I can never be.
And this self-doubt doesn’t just happen in our work lives. It can be personal too. Am I really good at anything? Am I smart? Am I worth being friends with?
So how to we fight against this overwhelming feeling of not being enough? Here are the rules I live by that have helped me combat imposter syndrome.
- What I feel is not always the truth. Our feelings can lie to us. Just because we may feel like we are not enough does not mean it is true. I find reminding myself of this (by even saying it out loud to myself) is key in beating imposter syndrome.
- What I do is not what I will always do or who I am. When I first started on my career path I put my whole identity and self-worth into my job title. I was proud of the work I did and happy but circumstances changed and suddenly I found myself jobless. Worse than that I found myself without an identity. What we do for a living is not who we are, it is only a part of it. Reminding ourselves of this during times of struggle at work is key.
- Being one thing today does not mean I won’t be anything else. You may be lazy one day but that does not mean you won’t be a hard worker the next. Remind yourself not to box yourself into labels. You can change. You can have bad days where you may be unpleasant to be around but still be an overall great person to be with. Do not let one day define your life. Do not let one person define you.
Reminding myself of these three things helps me when I feel self-doubt creeping in. Beating self-doubt is never easy. The more people look to you (the more you publish, expand your network, grow your career, get involved..) the more self-doubt can creep in. And when it does just remember: What I feel is not always the truth. What I do is not what I will always do or who I am. Being one thing today does not mean I won’t be anything else.